One of my friends posted this news on Facebook today with the comment:
"Instead of 'women, don't be trusting,' how about we say, 'men, don't be raping murderers'?"
Basically, yes. Victim-blaming is all too common. From the article:
"The danger of victim-blaming, however, is that it makes the focus of the story or the solution to the problem solely about the victims and what they could've done differently. It means we end up ignoring the fact that 100% of the time, the perpetrator of the crime is the one at fault — that they are the one who should've done things differently, and they're the one who should be held accountable for their actions."
An interesting thing came out of this tragedy - a stranger spoke up for these women... As one of the victims.
"'Yesterday I was killed,' Acosta's post begins. 'I refused to be touched, and they burst my skull with a stick. I got stabbed and was left to die bleeding.'Her post continues, contrasting the pain of death with the humiliation of being blamed for it:
'Worse than death, was the humiliation that followed. From the time they had my dead body nobody asked where the son of a bitch that ended my dreams, my hopes and my life was. No, rather than that they started asking me useless questions... What clothes did you wear? Why were you alone? Why would a woman travel alone? You got into a dangerous neighborhood, what did you expect?'"
After sending a prayer or a hopeful thought for these girls and their families, take a moment to share this Upworthy article, spread the word that victim-blaming is NOT okay.
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